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Boyfriend Too Busy With Work: How To Communicate To Maintain Your Relationship

When my boyfriend started a new job, he was too busy with work to spend time with me.. From the beginning, I told myself that I should be more understanding, because it was reasonable to respect their need to study, network with new colleagues, recharge (alone or with friends), bond with family, exercise, etc.

But despite my best efforts, I started to feel sloppy and grumpy …

As a result, I became cold and cruel to him, on the phone and even on dates! It wasn’t long before he too began to act distant.

Thus, he knew that he had to act fast before losing it …

It wasn’t easy, I admit it. It took courage and discipline, but I did it. So to help you Communicate with your ‘too busy’ boyfriend in a way that will not only keep your relationship going, but also help it grow., this is what you should do …

BEFORE you talk about the things you are unhappy about, be clear and specific about what you want!

Since your boyfriend is too busy with work, it’s safe to bet he’s already feeling stressed out. Saying that he is the source of your problems will only add to his stress, because he wants to help you solve your problems, but he loses it when you don’t tell him what specifically you want him to do.

In fact, if you don’t tell him exactly what you want, he’s likely to come up with (seemingly strange) solutions that don’t work for you. Does it sound familiar to you? His frustration grows as he asks “Why can’t he understand what I need and want?”

Can you see when you yourself are not clear about what you want, both parties lose?

[WARNING!: When your boyfriend can’t help you solve your problems, he feels terrible about himself. Did you know a man’s self-esteem crashes because your unhappiness communicates to him that HE’S A FAILURE – at solving your problems; making you happy; being your boyfriend? When a man feels like a failure, he cannot love. Hence, if you have gotten angry at your boyfriend because he couldn’t read your mind, don’t be surprised when he distances himself from you…]

Too often, women don’t go to the effort of spending time alone to honestly ask ourselves what we want …

I too am guilty of this. We hope that by sharing our problems, our boyfriends, who are often so good at finding creative solutions that we like, will have another great idea that will delight us. For example, I secretly hoped that my boyfriend would put aside his other commitments to see me. I secretly expected him to text me during lunch break or on the way to work.

But he never did …

It wasn’t until my relationship was in serious jeopardy of breaking up that I finally took the effort and courage to tell my boyfriend, “I’d rather you text me at least once, whether it’s in the morning or during lunch. On the contrary, we just feel like we are friends who don’t talk much. ” It scared me to text him with this. But I breathed a sigh of relief when he actually thanked me for being honest with him. He also told me that he would do what I asked him to do. As a result, I am happy to report that we are now even more in love.

Being clear about what I specifically want has worked for me time and time again. However, I don’t always remember this technique until things get pretty bad. Fortunately it ALWAYS helps me communicate with my boyfriend, even when he’s too busy, to maintain and grow our relationship. By sharing my secrets, I hope you will use it to successfully maintain the affection of the man you love too! I know you can do it.

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